That's a "YOU" Problem
In life, you'll have to do your fair share of bobbing and weaving to stay grounded. Discerning the hard and fast rules of this sport is mandatory to succeeding in it.
One of those rules is that "People are going to be people". I know that it seems very simplistic, but the sooner that you learn this, the easier your life will become.
In a nutshell, not taking experiences personally can bring you a peace of mind that can add years to your life. Of course, there will be times where a more intimate approach is required. You are human after all, and your feelings do matter. In most scenarios, the offense that has taken place can be chalked up to a lack of communication or cultural and/or social differences.
It may be something as elementary as someone spouting the wrong terminology at the wrong time. Who knows...there are a plethora of missteps to choose from!
Don't get me wrong, there will be times that people will intentionally hurt you. Despite that, try not to internalize their shortcomings.
There may be a time that you will have to address an individual just to clear the air. Even if it's just to let them know whatever their issues are, that's "A THEM Problem".
The idea is to carry on with your life's goals and not allow them to be an obstacle. It's easy to get wrapped up in one's supposed intentions, but at the end of the day what they think or feel about you isn't currency.
In fact, you may lose time and money concerning yourself with hypothetical scenarios and hearsay of the irrelevant.
Just to be clear, if you do decide to go down that route, then you have effectively made the concerns of small-minded people "A YOU Problem"!